“The Shadow Self in Romantic Relationships
The shadow self can significantly impact romantic relationships, often manifesting as conflicts, projections, or power struggles. Unresolved issues from past experiences or childhood trauma may influence our expectations, communication style, and ability to form secure attachments. Integrating the shadow self allows for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
In romantic relationships, the shadow self can manifest in various ways, such as fear of intimacy, fear of abandonment, or a tendency to seek validation from a partner. These unconscious patterns can create barriers to genuine connection and intimacy. By delving into the depths of our shadow self, we can uncover the root causes of these behaviors and work towards healing and transformation within our romantic partnerships.”
The Karmicons recommend that we integrate harmful behaviors into our personality, come to terms with them, and learn to live with them. This is the same as “advising” us to soil our clean clothes with mud and learn to live like pigs.
In the last part of this series, I will present some books and films in which deeply split people live with psychopathic split personalities that have a strong, decisive, and tragic impact on their lives. It would not occur to an awakened, emotionally-mentally healthy, and natural (normal) person to accept psychopathic sadists into their midst, let alone befriend them and share their body, mind, and life.
Even the above part of the article, written by the artificially intelligent AI program ByWord, is based on their characteristic formula combining Good and Evil:
1. Paragraph 1 recommends the inclusion of the Shadow, while
2. Paragraph 2 states that the Shadow can “create barriers to genuine connection and intimacy.”
By exploring and “healing” the Shadow, romantic partnerships are said to improve.
It is important to know that the Shadow cannot and will not explore and heal itself, let alone abolish it, for it is normal to itself, and abolishing it would be suicide. The Shadow may pretend to be “spiritually evolving” and continue her harmful behaviors.
To begin to observe, investigate, and abolish the Shadow, it is necessary to step out of it and see our old fragmented and Frankenstein Ego personality from the outside. The only external field from which we can look back into the messed-up karmic personality is Pure Awareness.
The letting go of the old and the creation of the new personality is done only from Pure Awareness, where the awakener initially rises above the surface of the personal mud into the field of Awareness for literally a few seconds or minutes, looks into the depths of the Shadow, explores a fragment at the time, recognizes it and makes a decision to stop doing that harmful behavior, and then sinks back into the mire of realization, fear, worry and other harmful emotional-mental secretions and waste. When he regains Pure Awareness and rises into the Light, he often feels like he has risen out of the cesspool.
Gradually he will spend more and more time being aware, and during this time he will create a new, unified, and integrated personality of an aware being, and slowly move from his old address to his new and true Home in Pure Awareness, where, after stabilization, he will settle down for good.
Imagine a person who has a puppet in each hand, speaks for both puppets, and performs certain movements with both puppets. Well, this is a karmic puppeteer staging a “romantic partnership” of two unaware persons who do not know that their lives are pre-staged and that they are only karmic puppets to perform the drama of their incarnants.
Your life and your romantic, sexual, and love partnerships were written long before you were born. They are not about true and unconditional love, but only about the karmic dramatic performances of two false personalities persons who are in reality two sets of many partial personalities acting conditionally.
They love the other if the other does everything they want. If they refuse to obey them, they no longer love them but hate them. One second they are friends, the next they are enemies.
Unless they drop their old, karmic, and imposed harmful personalities awaken to Pure Awareness, and create new personalities for themselves, they will not have true love partnerships. To have a true love partner, they must first become true love partners.
“The Shadow Self in Family Dynamics
Family dynamics provide a fertile ground for the emergence of the shadow self. Inherited beliefs, generational patterns, and unaddressed family issues can shape our perceptions, roles, and interactions within the family unit. Recognizing and reconciling the shadow self within the family context promotes healing, understanding, and improved relationships.
Within the family unit, the shadow self can play out in complex ways, influencing sibling rivalries, parent-child dynamics, and inter-generational conflicts. Unresolved issues from the past can create invisible barriers to authentic communication and emotional intimacy within the family. By shining a light on the shadow self within familial relationships, individuals can break free from destructive patterns and cultivate a deeper sense of connection and empathy with their loved ones.”
According to karmic theory and practice, we humans are not real beings, but living costumes for our incarnants and their incarnations. All “inherited beliefs, generational patterns, and unresolved family issues” are the property of other people from other planets, first of our direct incarnants, then of their incarnants, and then of incarnants of incarnants.
These are other people’s traumas that we do not know and have nothing to do with. We have never lived before, so all these inconveniences are imposed on us and we have to suffer for them. We can get rid of them partly by abandoning the Shadow and awakening into Pure Awareness, but fully only after the liberation of the planet and a thorough change of the karmic scenario for our life.
Merely “illuminating” the Shadow is not enough to “liberate the destructive patterns”, the Shadow has to be abolished altogether and a new personality has to be created for oneself.
“The Shadow Self and Mental Health
The shadow self’s impact reaches beyond interpersonal relationships and can have implications for mental health and well-being. Understanding the connection between the shadow self and mental health allows for more comprehensive approaches to treatment and self-care.”
The Shadow itself is a mental disorder, and a severe and profound emotional-mental personality disorder, which affects one’s life and all one’s relationships with other people.
I know that you think you are more or less “okay”, but I assure you that until you awaken to Pure Awareness you are far from your natural, healthy, and normal state. You will realize that for yourself when you become an aware being, as I have found out.
Read more about the difference between a harmful and a helpful personality in my article What is the difference between the Ego and the personality?:
To be continued.
All the best to all.
Seno
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