Let me first congratulate you on your decision to read this article. It was a good decision which will help you to learn about the reasons for your eventual indecisiveness and learn you to decide and or improve your decisiveness and deciding.
There is a lot of different synonyms expressions on the internet describing indecisiveness. Dawdling, delay, demurral, doubtful, equivocation, faltering, fluctuation, hesitancy, indecision, indisposition, irresolution, misgiving, mistrust, oscillation, pause, procrastination, qualm, reluctance, scruple, skepticism, timidity, vacillation, wavering, averseness, delaying, fumbling, hemming and hawing, shilly-shally, stammering, stumbling, shuttering, tentativeness, to-and-fro, ambivalent, wishy-washy, hesitating, shaky and unsure. With one word, indecisive.
Who would think that one can be indecisive in so many ways:) If you have noticed one of these harmful characteristics in your behavior, take a broom in your hands and wipe it clean. I have very good news for you if you are regularly in doubts stumbling to-and-fro in hesitancy shaking and delaying in the procrastination to make another decision:) You will easily release all of these pests with my exercises for awakening. As an awakened person, you will become strong and decisive deciding for you and the benefit of all. More about the exercises below.
In the 1. part of the article, I will present to you Slovene article Indecisiveness is a consequence of unself-confidence, (diffidence, insecureness, or self-doubt), and comment on it. Later, in the next parts, I will present to you the karmicons causes and my awakened explanation.
“Life is the river of constant decisions, questions, and positions in which we are forced to choose the way without any assurance which way is the the right way.” A hesitancy can “seriously blocking us from achieving our goals”.
The first question is, how we become hesitant at all? When, where, and why fell for the first time:)
Psychologists would say that either it was congenital, inherited from our parents and ancestors, or it was acquired. Are we indecisive because of our grandfather, despite the fact that our father is decisive, because of the genes skipping one generation? Or we acquired from our cold cousin. Or there is a combination of congenitality toward hesitance together which we developed by imitating others.
Neither:) The karmicons determined all of our characteristics, good and bad before our lives even started. Before and without my exercises for awakening, we would stay exactly the same as the karmicons programmed us. With exercises for awakening and the help of our space friends we can completely change the karmicons scripts, and also release all harmful behaviors.
“Research shows that decisiveness is a highly wanted characteristic for leaders. Indecisiveness is the incompetence in decision making which is based on the fear of their consequences or because of the risk of the responsibility for decisions. Partly, it is a personal characteristic, which is caused by different negative experiences and learned ways of reactions. It is a source of stress and anxiety, and it can lead to anger, depression, and guilt.”
It seems that indecisiveness is so absolute incapability that indecisive persons are not able to decide about anything, that is not true. We are all deciding every day about numerous things, at least we think so;) When we gonna wake up, on which foot, what we will wear, eat, do, etc, and we are not indecisive choosing, navigating, and directing our daily life at all. Most of our decisions don’t have any very important consequences, and we live just fine. We see decisiveness as an ideal characteristic and ideally decisive persons always and everywhere making quick and best decisions. That is also not true. Very few people are always and everywhere making decisions about life and death, which are the most important. Following are decisions about the family, partner, and children. And only then we decide on everyday things. Ordinary indecisiveness is not a particular obstruction as it doesn’t last long. Something else is strong and total indecisiveness which can paralyze a person stopping him from taking another step.
“Studies show that indecisiveness is connected to the very high or very low level of perfectionism, low self-confidence, and self-trust, and with a high level of anxiety, nervousness, and worry. Hesitance can be also a symptom of other complications, and it often accompanies depression and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. There is even a disorder when a person is pathologically indecisive and not capable to decide about the simplest things, like which apples to buy. He sees all decisions as very important and he feels constant fear from the consequences of the wrong decisions, despite there are none. This incapability is tormenting him with strong anxiety and mental pressure blocking his ability to normal everyday life.”
More often is OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, that is forced behavior. A person with this disorder can’t realize that he has already decided so he is repeating the one and the same decision again and again, for hours. If we close our doors in hurry, and we return to check if we really closed them, that is just a security check. But if we return and return for three hours, and we are not able to remember that we have already closed them, and even checked and confirmed that we are dealing with forced behavior or OCD.
That is just the of the many karmicons forms of violence they use to en-cycle a person in a closed circle of uncertainty and worries fearing that he didn’t do well and that he will be punished for that with something very bad. In his urge to the right thing and proceed, he keeps repeating one and the same thing impossible to come to the end of it and go further. He is pressing to be better and perfect, but he can’t reach that ideal position. The karmicons forced him into that position of being bad and not good enough feeding with his doubts and worries.
“If we simplify, we are indecisive or hesitant when we have to choose between similar pleasant (or unpleasant) choices, or when we have just one choice but it has positive and negative effects (like a steak which is tasty but fattening the veins). In the first case, we are like the proverbial donkey in the middle of two piles of hay and died because he couldn’t decide from each to eat. In the second case, we are like lab rats from the known experiment. Rats were smelling the cheese, but when they approach it, electricity shocked them. In fear, they ran, but when they were far enough, they forgot the pain and come again to the cheese attracted with the smell. When they came to the point previously hurt, they remembered the pain and quickly ran away again. Smelling cheese again, etc.”
Total and permanent indecisiveness is very rare so we will decide for the vanilla or the chocolate sooner or later. Most of the decisions are the old one from our past imitating parents and others, and then just repeating them routinely choosing one and the same thing. When we learn that something is working we keep repeating the same decision.
“Psychologist Georges Potworowski from Michigan University confirmed with his researches that indecisive behavior usually comes in four characteristic forms. In the first one, we hesitate with the decisions, delaying them for later, usually to the last possible time, while we search for information to help us to make the best decision, or we are just trying to forget everything. In the second one, we reject to accept the responsibility for our decision, for example, we don’t want to hurt somebody by denying his offer or we have to keep all possibilities open. The third inability to make a decision is caused by our torturing ourselves with overthinking the options. And the last one is constantly changing already made decisions and their realizations which shows our incapability to stay in the chosen way.”
This is true, but only for the bigger and biggest decisions, like what I am gonna be when I grow up:), to which school I will go, which sport I will choose, who I will marry, where to live, which house or apartment to buy, which car to drive, etc.
We have two possibilities for deciding, or we decide ourselves, or somebody else will decide for us. With indecisiveness, we have only one option:)
When I was unawakened and torn apart between many partial personalities, sometimes I couldn’t even decide to decide or not to decide about the thing:) Luckily, the karmicons have made some good decisions for me:) I am very satisfied that I “myself” decided to learn different sports activities, especially windsurfing, to study journalism, and to learn lucid dreaming. Lucky me, all of the pre-determined harmful karmicons behaviors already passed by which I have released with exercises for awakening long ago.
What are your best decisions in your life, and which one would you change if you could?
To be continued.
All the best to all.
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